“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.”
— Ernest Hemingway.
A life coach does for the rest of your life what a personal trainer does for your health and fitness: That’s what I attempt to do through anything that I write. As it’s what I know to do best, ever since I’ve been assigned corporate training and coaching roles as part of my earliest career assignments. Many of my early trainees today, are in senior and responsible roles themselves, as I can get a glimpse of it on facebook. What gives me the confidence today – is to recall and reflect under what circumstances these youngsters were handed over to my care, though I was barely much older myself: with the confidence from senior management – that only I could turn around these people. I was often given these people to coach, as a last resort – before showing them the door, for poor performance and attitudes that would spoil the work culture.
These experiences developed my strength, patience, and above all stamina in my ability to do so. And I’ve done this several times over and over with batches of employees in different companies. Also my mother was principal of a teacher’s training college, so I had grown up on practical examples of good coaching methods. She often took us with her, to practice teaching sessions for her students at various schools or colleges.
So then, obviously when I decided to write – as that’s a skill I knew I had even as a child, just like I could draw and paint; I chose to write about what I know best. That is, how to build self-esteem and confidence, as that’s the first step towards any level of achievement.
“He who believes is strong; he who doubts is weak. Strong convictions precede great actions.”
— Louisa May Alcott.
Personally I choose to do what I’m doing, as: “True strength lies in submission which permits one to dedicate his life, through devotion, to something beyond himself.” — Henry Miller.
Posted on my Facebook Book Page – Across Borders, on 26/06/19
“Do not be dismayed by the brokenness of the world. All things break. And all things can be mended. Not with time as they say, but with intention. So go. Love intentionally, extravagantly, unconditionally. The broken world waits in darkness for the light that is you.” – L.R Knost.
😋But all the love that I can manage for the world, is out there in my writing. And just as any good psychoanalyst, or life coach, I do not like to be personally – mentally, emotionally and least of all romantically involved with my readers…so don’t push me, to find out I’ll push you right back. People tend to associate a writer, especially in literary fiction as it goes much deeper – with every little move her characters make, and then deem it fit to barge into her private space; thinking it’s all out there anywhere. It’s true you will see glimpses of my soul in everything I write – novels, especially poetry and short stories, but that’s not all me!
🙏I guard my personal space, like a shrine, where all my creativity is nurtured. So don’t try to break in just because I’ve been friendly and then go freaking judgmental on me if I go cold or temperamental!
I can relate easily to these attitudes that sportsmanship inculcates…in this video down below in the link, that I just came across.
Both my parents were serious sports people. And all our lives, my sister and I were brought up with these values – as read out in the letter in this video, by Deepika Padukone, whether or not we succeed in life like her. 😋😊.
My mother among other things, along with the sports she coached and excelled at, followed by a phd in Yoga; was the hony. secy of the Delhi University sports federation; jury for swimming and gymnastics at the 1980 Asian Games in Delhi and after several other feathers to her cap, retired as Principal of a physical education teacher’s training college.
My father, a businessman, once represented undivided Pakistan for Javelin and Discuss throws: We learned from his close friend – when he suddenly started to coach my sister after becoming enthused that she’d won the prize from Hoogly District; among other athletics she excelled at.
We sisters, participated and won several sports prizes, though my sister was more champion material, also the school sports champion; even though I’d put in all my effort too and come away with three prizes yearly.😄
My parents effortlessly carried away the first prize for the parents event at our school sports, that they were literally insisted upon to participate, against their wishes – as they knew their strengths. Father played Table Tennis and Volleyball effortlessly till his last years, atleast till about 68-69 years – versus the youth in our Salt Lake, Calcutta residential block. And has even won first prizes at 100 m races along with the youth, as he refused to degrade himself by participating in walking races with his age group of 65 plus.😄
So yeah, it was lovely to listen to this and summarise all that my parents taught us lifelong, without actually having written a letter to this effect.
I feel blessed and overwhelmed at the opportunity I’ve had to strengthen myself.