We all seek it; we all own it –
yet we are all lonely in it:
as, who really knows
how much is too much –
or for that matter who knows
how much is too little!
I need to call you – to come over,
also check if you have time for my visit:
when all I’m really doing is –
hiding in a soulless internet vacuum,
till there comes a point in time
when you will no longer seek me –
for the space between us
has grown further than the horizon
I view – looking out to sea,
from where you seem so remote,
I cannot even invite you to tea.
As a child, I went out visiting –
my Baba, Ma, sister and me:
we called upon friends and family
who welcomed us graciously,
as there wasn’t need for
ringing of remote bells,
to awaken love that was reciprocal;
as it wasn’t constricted in form
io spaces of isolation we’re now in –
for haven’t we beckoned it for long,
begging for Space – unwittingly!
Don’t take life so seriously. It’s not like you’re going to get out alive – we are often told, in various ways, whether in seriousness or in jest.
I for one, have always been told this. People will say to you, don’t take things, or let’s say, life – so seriously, loosen up, let it go, just laugh… or whatever it is that will ease our anxiety or our worry. But in all my working life, that I spent training and coaching youth – often my age or often much older, I realised it is this lack of taking things seriously since childhood, that we are encouraged to do – more so in adulthood when it is of utmost importance, that is the root of most of the problems we face today.
We do not take anything seriously, do we – not our words, neither our actions, and least of all our views and scathing criticism of others and its repercussions, or let’s say even our lavish and undue praise that can topple and ultimately uproot the self-esteem of a person who has little ability left for judgement of his strengths and weaknesses to decide on the profundity of his behaviour or his next course of action.
So what I really want to convey now is this…For heaven’s sake, take life seriously. Even if it means that you love seriously, even if you hurt very seriously, also cry and laugh sincerely, till you really feel all of yourself inside your gut and in your soul.
Don’t laugh, when all you want to do is weep and don’t cry for the world when all you want to do is laugh at the absurdity of what’s happening around you. Have the courage to be real and to be ‘you’, so as to feel everything deeply and connect to your core self, not to do what is expected of you – thus turning yourself into a shallow creature, that keeps flapping its wings with all the other ducks – but has no inherent strength in its wings to fly alone.
You don’t have to be grumpy, boring, whiny and obnoxious to be seriously sincere in life, you can enjoy your life hilariously, uproariously, and be as silly as you please when the mood strikes, but you need to be deeply connected to yourself, to form sincere connections with people and the world and thereby take responsibility for your words, opinions, actions and behaviour and their impact on others. Happiness, especially peace, I believe, stems from taking onus and responsibility for your words, actions and yourself.
That’s why I look you straight in the eye, with conviction – as I’ve always done as a trainer and coach…and continue the same as a writer, even if all you do is merely comment on the photos. I’m not deterred.
The fallout of the above attitude I advocate is described in this quote, but well worth it: “And that’s the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think everyone else does too.” — Khaled Hosseini
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